In Alone in Plain Sight, Ben Higgins wrote a brand-new book about dealing with the feelings of rejection and how we can reconnect with yourself, others, romantically, and God. Ben Higgins was on the 11th season of the Bachelorette and he also starred on the 20th season of the Bachelor. He begins the book by sharing a personal story about how he has always felt like an outsider and how he was the kid who was a loner and didn’t feel like he fit in. He shared how in reading class, he was the last one picked and he didn’t have a reading partner so he had to partner up with the librarian. He admitted to feeling like an outsider and he always felt rejected by his peers. He felt like he could easier talk to adults than his peers. He was an only child and it wasn’t by choice. His parents spent four years with infertility specialists before they were able to conceive him. He shared how during the pregnancy, she suffered a severe placenta previa hemorrhage and he became a high-risk pregnancy. During this time, his father was also diagnosed with stage four Hodgkin’s lymphoma. Luckily, everything turned out fine and his parents were okay but it changed them afterwards. But after all these events they were unable to have any more children. He explained how these events caused his parents to live life a different way and they raised Ben that every day is gift from God and making meaningful connections with family and friends is extremely important. Ben revealed how he struggled with friendships and he didn’t understand the term casual acquaintance. He wanted to believe that people would be his friend and they would accept him. He explained how he felt like an outsider and that he wasn’t seen, understood, or even valued by his peers and he felt alone in plain sight. He also explored the story of the woman at the well and how judged she was and how Jesus spoke to her as a fellow human being and treated her with respect when the world and her peers rejected her.
Later on, in the book, he opened up about how he was chosen for The Bachelorette with 24 other guys in hopes that he would fall in love with this one special girl. In the book, he shared his experiences and some of his feelings about what he learned about himself while on this journey. He opened up about ending his first engagement and he was struggling and looking for another person to fill up his soul. He eventually realized that hold would never be filled with looking to another person to make us happy and whole. He explained how another person can’t fix our own brokenness inside us. We have to look to our Savior and reconnect with God.
In the book, he also discussed how he started his own company, Generous Coffee and he was able to create jobs globally. This company isn’t just about coffee they also stand for serving others and doing good for others. He explained in the book how the company and vision for the company was formed and how they crafted the ambassador program.
I would this awesome book to anyone is feeling alone and rejected. You might be feeling like you are alone in plain sight and no one sees you or loves you. I immensely loved how real Ben was in this book and it’s not something you would expect from a reality TV star. I’m going to be honest I don’t like the Bachelor or the Bachelorette and I truly hate the show. I don’t really care for it since I personally think most of it is fake and played up for TV. I liked how Ben didn’t really focus on the show as much as he could have. He had a bigger vision and he wanted to help others who are feeling alone and forgotten by their peers and they are dealing with the pains of rejection. I connected with story because I’m also an only child and I personally have felt the pains of rejection. I always have felt like I didn’t fit in. It was a great encouragement to see that I’m not alone and even when I feel like I’m alone in plain sight, I’m not.
Comments regarding the updated edition:
He was finishing the final edits from the book when Covid-19 hit. This led us to become isolated and separated and alone from each other. He explained how important it is to have real connections. He discussed the scriptures which state not to let the left know what they right hand is doing. We need to check our motives for giving to others and generosity. He shared how he found love with Jessica Clarke and he took three years to pop the question. He realized that she couldn’t be the source of his joy and she couldn’t fill a void. He approached marriage with generosity and throwing away the scoreboard and focusing on doing life together. He is also a new dad and has learned the love of a parent to a child. This extra chapter keeps fans updated on his life and journey.
Check it out below:
https://www.amazon.com/Alone-Plain-Sight-Searching-Connection-ebook/dp/B08BZ1235L
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