Clean is written to guide readers into becoming clean and
living a life with sexual integrity and purity. Douglas Weiss is a nationally known
psychologist, speaker, and an author. He is also the president of the American
Association for Sex Addiction Therapy. He is also a committed Christian who had
written an excellent book on the subject of staying clean from all bad forms of
sexual perversity. He was very transparent and open about his own personal struggle
with masturbation and pornography while in Bible school. He admitted that he would
confess then keep masturbating and he would remain stuck in this deadly cycle.
When he went to seminary he was still struggling but it was becoming less frequent.
He felt God prompting him to tell his roommate that he masturbated and to be obedient
he would confess to him. Luckily he had a trusting roommate that prayed for him
and was a true friend throughout his sexual battles. He eventually realized
that if he acted out he would have to confess to him. He finally broke the
cycle and became free and now he wants to help every man, son, father, brother,
pastor, daughter, and wife to be completely free.
He begins the book by digging into depth and sharing the
statistics of how pornography has dramatically increased and is becoming more widespread.
Times have changed and pornography is easily more accessible to users because
of new technology, for example, iPads and smart phones. You can pretty much
look at pornography anywhere.
Some of the statistics stated:
“Every second 28,258 Internet users are viewing
pornography.” (Page 6)
“Every second, $3,075.64 is being spend on pornography.” (Page
6)
“In 2006, the United States had 244,661,900 porn Web
pages.” (Page 9)
“The Internet Filter Learning Center (2008) states, “Approximately
13% of the US population regularly views Internet pornography 75% of whom are
males.” (Page 10).
“Woman accessing adult websites each month 9.4 million.”
(Chart on page 11).
All of the statistics presented displays that pornography
is mostly viewed by men. But Douglas Weiss even admitted that his office has
noticed that they are having to treat more women sex addicts than ever before. One
survey found that 37% of pastors are also struggling with viewing pornography. As
if the statistics couldn’t get any worst, next Douglas revealed the hidden
dangers of our adolescents and their pornography habits. The average age that a
child sees pornography is age 11. Between the ages of 8-16 years old 90% of
children and teens have observed porn online and most are looking at porn while
supposedly doing homework. Sex and pornography as you can perceive is influencing
our generations and is negatively affecting many families and future families. I
only shared some of the appalling statistics about pornography but the book encompassed
tons of more statistics that will impact the reader.
Douglas Weiss explored the veracity that some of the
scripture characters had to endure regarding their sexual temptation. For
instance, Joseph master’s wife, Potiphar attempted to seduce him into bed and
tried multiple times to get him to give in to the temptation. Joseph said no repeatedly
and he wouldn’t give in to her pleas. He stood his ground and wound up arrested
for a crime he didn’t commit. But what if he had given in and had sex and had a
moment of thrilling pleasure would he had been able to fulfill his destiny. As
Douglas pointed out, “sexual purity is what maintained Joseph’s destiny” (Page
23). He also looks at Samson and Delilah and the affect that one decision that lead
to the big reveal and the secret of Samson’s power that cost him dearly. Just
like the characters in the Bible, we are in a fight with the devil for our
great destiny that Christ wants us to accomplish for His glory.
I was truly shocked when Douglas went into details
concerning Revelation 2:20-22 and the woman Jezebel is very much active today. This
was the first time that I have learnt about the incredible power that the woman
Jezebel has on our world and how she is teaching and spreading the news that it’s
okay to have sexual intercourse with whomever you please or masturbate and
watch porn if you want and when you want to. All of this is lies from the satan
and Jesus has declared that Jezebel will be made to go through suffering and
whoever commits adultery with her will also suffer. The good news is that if we
have fallen and sinned God is able to forgive us when we repent for our sins
and turn from our ways.
Douglas has opened my eyes to this numerous passages and
the importance of staying clean. I also enjoyed that he shared stories about
how people have gotten trapped in sexual sin. I liked how he tried to wake
people up to the critical issues by relating stories that people could connect
to. Some of the stories include workers getting caught at work printing off
homosexual pornography and they ultimately get fired, one guy even called a prostitute
and he accidently conferenced in his wife while setting up the encounter,
others had sexual affairs and some accidently became pregnant or got someone
pregnant, a company executive had an affair with an employee and she filed
sexual harassment and sued him and the company, some even tried to hire a
prostitute and it turned out to be undercover cop instead and they got arrested,
and many more heartbreaking stories.
One of the biggest takeaways was the serious emphasize on
staying clean for our sons, daughters, and our wife or future wife. This is one
of the paramount books that I have read on sexual temptations and how to become
clean from our sexual addictions. I also immensely loved the countless charts featuring
how looking at porn, masturbating, or having an affair affects our spouse and
our children. This section of the book would make any man want to conquer the
sexual battle satan is engaging with us. This taught me that a number of women
will unfortunately become depressed because of their husband’s sexual struggles.
I also learned that my sexual behaviors can affect my child self-esteem, spirituality,
social, and dating life. I commend Douglas for sharing who are sexual organs truthfully
belong to and it was very eye opening. I loved how the book contained many
scripture passages discussed to teach readers what we might have missed before.
The most scandalous Bible stories Douglas went into massive detail was the city
of Sodom and Noah’s son Ham (Canaan’s father). This is the first time I have
even remotely understood the implicit story about Ham.
I would recommend this life changing book to every man,
husband, father, son, brother, pastor, and business man. Basically if you’re a
man you without a doubt need to read this book! This book is also for both single
men and married men. I must warn you that this isn’t a book for the
fainthearted and most of the material and information will disturb you significantly.
But how sweet the freedom and revelation will inspire you to change and stay
sexual clean for yourself, your wife or future wife, your kids or future kids,
and grandchildren or future grandchildren. I have personally struggled with
masturbation and pornography and this book was an enormous tool to encourage me
and help me to succeed in staying clean for my future wife and children even if
I am still currently single. I would also recommend this book to all females
who are wanting to understand what their husband or children our facing in
regards to their sexual integrity. The book had many principles and plans to
overcome and to help men maintain their sexual integrity and to stay clean. I
would highly endorse this book to every man who is looking for a resource to
assist them in their journey towards their sexual honor and destiny!
"I received this book free from the
publisher through the BookSneeze.com book review bloggers program."
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