In Better Than Okay, Brandi Wilson has written her personal story about her openly divorce to mega church pastor, Pete Wilson. He was the pastor of Cross Point in Nashville. In 2016, he decided to end their marriage after being together for a total of 23 years. He also made the decision to quit his church after 14 years and he told everyone publicly that it was because he was tired and burned out. This led to her losing her church family and her entire family dynamically changed dramatically overnight. She explained how her story was being written as a to be continued after her divorce. It has taken her 6 years for her to be ready to write a book to help others who are going through a divorce and provides them with hope for the future.
She looked at Anna who was a prophetess in the Bible and not many are probably familiar with her story. She had been married for seven years and a widow for 84 years. She would stay at the temple and worship God regularly. She explained how she choose worship over feeling bitterness from losing her husband. She was hopeful for the future and she recognized the Son of God right away. We can learn a deal in our suffering and rediscover our hope.
She also shared how she was able to see her scar after her failed marriage but she was still able to re-heal and move forward after her divorce. She compared the beauty to the scar when she recently had two skin cancers removed from her bicep and her doctor decided to stitch her up in the shape of a cross where it would become a beautiful scar. The book also looked at the grief she felt and knowing that she wouldn’t get to keep her three boy’s full time. She would have to share every other weekend and holidays. One of my favorite quotes was, “part of the grief process is grieving how you allowed yourself to be treated.”
She also chooses to discuss dating again after a divorce. She shared a complete list of green flags to look for in a relationship. She did it a little different than others. She wants us to focus on what we are wanting in a relationship and not making a list of just red flags. She enclosed some tips she has learned in her own dating experiences with dating apps since they are become more of the norm of meeting people. I really like how she clarified how important it is to be honest and that we don’t need to ghost people. If we aren’t feeling it kindly tell then ahead of time and don’t waste their time. She also shared how we need to have the preceptive that they are lucky to get to spend time with us and learning to love yourself. It took her about five years to start dating again exclusively. So even after many failed first dates, she was able to keep trying and she revealed how she dates with a family first dating mindset.
I would recommend this awesome book about finding hope again after a divorce. I’m not married and I’m currently still single but there were still helpful lessons I can learn by reading this book. It is more written for divorced readers but everyone can benefit from reading this book. I have heard of her husband being a pastor and was curious to read her side of the divorce. It was inspiring to read about her story. It liked the chapter on gratitude and how her choosing to display gratitude it helped her to have resilience and find happiness’s again. I really connected with her sharing that she had a choice to make to either be “humbly grateful or grumbly hateful”. She chose the path to freedom. This book will assist you in re-finding joy after a divorce and healing from the heartache.
"I received this book free from the publisher, Bethany House/ Chosen for my honest review.”
If you would like to purchase a copy, check it out on Amazon.com:
https://www.amazon.com/Better-Than-Okay-Finding-Marriage/dp/0764241419/
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